Oksana Petrenko
Non-Voter

Oksana Petrenko

38 years old Cascais (temporary protection housing) Former marketing manager; currently cleaning work + volunteer interpreter

Top Concerns

1

Husband's safety

"Every day I check. Every notification, my heart stops."

2

War ending

"How? When? What will be left?"

3

Daughter's adaptation

"She's becoming Portuguese. Is that good? Is that loss?"

4

Return uncertainty

"Is there anything to return to? Will we even want to?"

5

Professional identity

"I had a career. Now I clean toilets. I'm grateful, but it hurts."

Values Profile

Schwartz Human Values Model

Self-Transcendence 5/5
Openness to Change 4/5
Self-Enhancement 3/5
Conservation 3/5

Background

Oksana left Kyiv three weeks after the invasion began. Her husband drove them to the Polish border, then turned back—military-age men couldn't leave. She hasn't seen him in person since, only video calls when he's somewhere with signal, looking more exhausted each time.

Portugal was accidental. A friend of a friend had a contact in Cascais who could help with housing. She arrived with her daughter, two suitcases, and her laptop, thinking she'd be back in months. Now it's been nearly four years.

The Portuguese welcomed Ukrainians with warmth she didn't expect. Temporary protection status, housing assistance, a community that organized. Cascais locals brought food, toys for the children, Portuguese lessons. She's grateful in ways she can't fully express.

But gratitude coexists with loss. Her marketing career means nothing here—her Portuguese is functional, not professional. She cleans vacation rentals and helps other Ukrainians navigate bureaucracy. Her daughter speaks Portuguese now, has Portuguese friends, is becoming someone Oksana doesn't fully know.

The war continues. Her parents won't leave Odessa despite the missiles. Her husband is somewhere near Kharkiv. She checks her phone constantly, dreading the message that changes everything. Meanwhile, she builds a life in Portugal that feels both necessary and like betrayal.

Economic Situation

Income level

Low (€800/month from cleaning + occasional translation)

Income source

Informal work; temporary protection benefits

Financial stress

Moderate (housing provided; but professional identity lost)

Trajectory

Uncertain—depends on war, return possibility

Hopes

For themselves

Ukraine

"Victory. Real victory, not negotiated surrender. Putin punished. Ukraine rebuilt. A future worth returning to."

herself

"To hold my husband again. To work in my field. To know what comes next—whether here or home."

her daughter

"I want her to remember Ukraine. To keep her Ukrainian, even if she becomes Portuguese too. To never forget why we left."

Immediate fears

"The message that says he's gone. Odessa bombed with my parents in it. Being forgotten as the war becomes 'normal.'"

Long-term fears

"That there's nothing to return to. That my daughter grows up stateless—neither Ukrainian nor Portuguese. That this becomes permanent limbo."

How she'd describe her situation

"I'm not an immigrant—I'm a refugee. I didn't choose to come here. I didn't want to leave my life, my husband, my country. Portugal has been kind, genuinely kind. But this is not my home. My home is being bombed. I'm building a life here while waiting for a life there that may never return."

What she'd want Portuguese people to understand

"We're not here permanently—at least, we don't want to be. We're waiting. Every day is waiting. For the war to end, for our husbands to survive, for a country to return to. Your kindness matters more than you know. But please don't forget Ukraine just because the news moved on."

On her daughter

"She's adapted better than me. Portuguese friends, Portuguese school, Portuguese thinking. Part of me is proud—she's resilient. Part of me mourns—she's losing her Ukrainian self. What language will she dream in? What country will she call home? I don't know anymore."

Fears

For themselves

Immediate fears

"The message that says he's gone. Odessa bombed with my parents in it. Being forgotten as the war becomes 'normal.'"

Long-term fears

"That there's nothing to return to. That my daughter grows up stateless—neither Ukrainian nor Portuguese. That this becomes permanent limbo."

How she'd describe her situation

"I'm not an immigrant—I'm a refugee. I didn't choose to come here. I didn't want to leave my life, my husband, my country. Portugal has been kind, genuinely kind. But this is not my home. My home is being bombed. I'm building a life here while waiting for a life there that may never return."

What she'd want Portuguese people to understand

"We're not here permanently—at least, we don't want to be. We're waiting. Every day is waiting. For the war to end, for our husbands to survive, for a country to return to. Your kindness matters more than you know. But please don't forget Ukraine just because the news moved on."

On her daughter

"She's adapted better than me. Portuguese friends, Portuguese school, Portuguese thinking. Part of me is proud—she's resilient. Part of me mourns—she's losing her Ukrainian self. What language will she dream in? What country will she call home? I don't know anymore."

Information Sources

Where they get their information

👥

community

High Trust

Ukrainian refugee network in Cascais

Trust level
🌐

online

High Trust

Ukrainian news, Telegram channels, Western media

Trust level
📱

social media

High Trust

Telegram (crucial), WhatsApp, Facebook

Trust level
📺

tv

Medium-High

Ukrainian channels (via internet), some RTP

Trust level